***DAILY DO’S – THURSDAY 7AM EDITION***
A number of years ago, I read a series of books, which have recently been turned into a Netflix TV show. The title of the series-- “A Series of Unfortunate Events”—seems sadly and amazingly appropriate for the world we live in. Every day we’re slammed with a whirlwind of issues: border fences, education funding, indigenous land rights, and unqualified cabinet nominees just to name a few.
So, before we jump onto today’s conversations and calls, I think it’s worth taking a few moments to make our first #DailyDo a self-care reminder.
1. Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Then repeat to yourself “I don’t have to solve all the problems today.” The beauty of groups like ours is that we can step in and out, we can spend one day calling every member of the education committee to keep Betsy DeVos from being confirmed and the next day we can take a bit of a breather. Heck, that’s one of the main reasons we have a Daily Dos team, to keep any one person from getting burned out and losing hope. We’ve had a number of conversations going in our group throughout the last couple of months on selfcare. If you need to commiserate or look for additional advice on how to cope with our real-life Series of Unfortunate Events, check them out. Here’s one to get you started: http://bit.ly/2k3fJQE
2. #IndvisibleU #Race 101: Microaggressions
The word microaggressions gets used a lot, but how many of you have thought about how they play out. Let’s review one example of how a microaggression can play out between two friends.
A Microaggression Play in 5 Actions
2. Call Out
3. Defensive Claim of Good Intentions/Re-centering the conversation on self
4. Blaming the Offended Person/Tone Policing/Questioning their Experience
5. Non-Apology Apology
Jen: Maria, will you bring homemade salsa to the work picnic?
Maria: Why do you assume I make salsa? Because I’m Latina?
Jen: Oh my gosh, no I didn’t mean that. I just thought some salsa would be good for the picnic.
Maria: Not all Latinas make or like salsa.
Jen: Woah, you know I’m not like that Maria. I volunteered in the Dominican Republic in college. I love Latinos. Honestly, I was just trying to put together a nice picnic and your hostility is really messing everything up. I don’t understand why you couldn’t just say something nicely.
Maria: Jen, what you said was a microaggression. You assumed that because I am Latina, I make homemade salsa. It offended me. I know you didn’t intend to say something racist, but the impact of your statement was to remind me that I am different from you, which is hurtful.
Jen: Well, I’m sorry you got offended when I asked you to bring salsa. I definitely won’t do that again next time.
OK here are your questions:
1. What do you think Maria felt when Jen asked her to bring salsa?
2. What are the consequences that Maria had to consider before she spoke up?
3. Did Maria challenge Jen "the right way"? (This is a trick question - yes, she did. Keep an eye out for our tendency to want to tell people to be nice when they're identifying offensive statements.)
4. What do you think Jen was feeling when she said, "Oh my gosh, no, I didn't mean that"?
5. What did Maria hear when Jen said, "Oh my gosh, no, I didn't mean that"?
6. What did Jen's responses to Maria say to Maria about her relationship with Jen? In other words, how did Jen's responses make Maria feel?
7. What COULD Jen have said when Maria said, "Why do you assume I make salsa? Because I'm Latina?"
Extra Credit: Is Maria going to have fun at the picnic?
Reply to this comment! Be brave! Take chances! This is where we grow!
3. #IndivisibleLove Finally, the president has been issuing a number of Executive Orders and expected to announce a few more by the end of the week. One of his first targets was Sanctuary Cities. If you live in Seattle, start your day by reaching out to Mayor Murray and the Seattle City Council for their unwavering commitment to immigrants and refugees. If you live in a Sanctuary City elsewhere in the state, reach out to your elected officials and tell them expect them to hold firm against the new administration’s threats to defund cities that place public safety above identifying immigration status. And if you live in a city that does not currently show their support for immigrants, take a moment to reach out to your mayors and city council members to ask them to keep families together.
Katie Anthony is a writer, one of the administrators of Pantsuit Washington, and heads the Daily Do's team.
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